We all have an individual recipe in the bedroom that "typically works for us". What I have learned, from a majority of my relationships, and sexual encounters, is that my partner does things to me, that he likes done to him. I recall that light bulb moment, very well, and I realized that I tend to do the same thing!
I then began to asses my own moves. I LOVE to kiss. So, I kiss my partner a lot. (Does he actually like kissing? I have no idea, I never even asked!) I love when someone touches my back and neck and head. So, I perform that as part of my "mad skills". Our recipe for pleasure becomes a tried and true skill set of "moves". These moves do not always correlate to a "match" with our partner's moves. Sometimes we are off sync. Sometimes our moves become stale, and predictable.
Like anything else in our lives, we need to keep moving forward. It's ok to talk about sex, fantasies, fetishes, role-playing. It's really ok. Ask your partner to read a book with you, or play a bedroom board game, or go on the internet together, and seek new ideas; TOGETHER. If you are a partner who is intimidated by these types of activities. Get over it. Your wall is closing you off to new and wonderful experiences.
Over the years, we hopefully develop into more aware human beings, and even more aware: partners! The importance of sharing mad skills with all of you today is simply for the joy of reliving some movies in my mind, and hopefully for a moment, you take a step back, and think of a new way to communicate with your partner, all your wants and desires. (for all you voyeurs out there, this post is for you)
Some of my favorite moves performed on me are the following:
The first time a man was able to use his entire body, to touch me; it wasn't just his hands touching me, it was this fluid motion from hand to forearm to an enveloped embrace! Wow!
The first time a man tore my clothes off and I'm standing there astonished, and realizing I didn't even know clothes could come off that quickly nor did I know a bra could be undone in one swift hand gesture! Double Wow!!
The first time a man (not to be confused with my own self-knowledge of "said" spot -- which in fact exists, and is NOT a myth) was able to find my g-spot --- repeatedly! Quadruple Wow! (heck, it could be "wow infinity!")
The first time a man took his time, touching the top layer of my flesh, with what felt like a feather, but it was, in fact, his fingertips! I melted away into an ooey gooey relaxed, yet aroused, state of ecstasy.
The first time I was able to enjoy the creative use of battery operated toys along with my partner, and he did not have an issue that he was somehow "less than" because he met my other friend "BOB". (for the men: BOB = battery operated boyfriend) Freedom and creativity ensued! Yum.
I am stealing material from a previous post (A Touching Moment), but it's well worth the repeat: "My experience was one of assurance. I felt a peaceful comfort in the arms of my partner. Enjoying the slow, calming closeness of my partner's breath and touch, which ultimately lead to me to a calming, unfamiliar, yet satisfying climax. Penetration does not have to occur for an intensely intimate moment to transpire."
I then began to asses my own moves. I LOVE to kiss. So, I kiss my partner a lot. (Does he actually like kissing? I have no idea, I never even asked!) I love when someone touches my back and neck and head. So, I perform that as part of my "mad skills". Our recipe for pleasure becomes a tried and true skill set of "moves". These moves do not always correlate to a "match" with our partner's moves. Sometimes we are off sync. Sometimes our moves become stale, and predictable.
Like anything else in our lives, we need to keep moving forward. It's ok to talk about sex, fantasies, fetishes, role-playing. It's really ok. Ask your partner to read a book with you, or play a bedroom board game, or go on the internet together, and seek new ideas; TOGETHER. If you are a partner who is intimidated by these types of activities. Get over it. Your wall is closing you off to new and wonderful experiences.
Over the years, we hopefully develop into more aware human beings, and even more aware: partners! The importance of sharing mad skills with all of you today is simply for the joy of reliving some movies in my mind, and hopefully for a moment, you take a step back, and think of a new way to communicate with your partner, all your wants and desires. (for all you voyeurs out there, this post is for you)
Some of my favorite moves performed on me are the following:
The first time a man was able to use his entire body, to touch me; it wasn't just his hands touching me, it was this fluid motion from hand to forearm to an enveloped embrace! Wow!
The first time a man tore my clothes off and I'm standing there astonished, and realizing I didn't even know clothes could come off that quickly nor did I know a bra could be undone in one swift hand gesture! Double Wow!!
The first time a man (not to be confused with my own self-knowledge of "said" spot -- which in fact exists, and is NOT a myth) was able to find my g-spot --- repeatedly! Quadruple Wow! (heck, it could be "wow infinity!")
The first time a man took his time, touching the top layer of my flesh, with what felt like a feather, but it was, in fact, his fingertips! I melted away into an ooey gooey relaxed, yet aroused, state of ecstasy.
The first time I was able to enjoy the creative use of battery operated toys along with my partner, and he did not have an issue that he was somehow "less than" because he met my other friend "BOB". (for the men: BOB = battery operated boyfriend) Freedom and creativity ensued! Yum.
I am stealing material from a previous post (A Touching Moment), but it's well worth the repeat: "My experience was one of assurance. I felt a peaceful comfort in the arms of my partner. Enjoying the slow, calming closeness of my partner's breath and touch, which ultimately lead to me to a calming, unfamiliar, yet satisfying climax. Penetration does not have to occur for an intensely intimate moment to transpire."
The moment when you realize there is someone making a shit-ton of noise, in the bedroom, and you love all the sounds that are emanating from her, and then, *poof*, you realize it's you!
Be open and be free with your partner. Take time to talk about your fantasies. Just take time. Make time. Share time and openness and fantasies! Tonight.
Dove dark chocolate quote, today:
"It's ok to be fabulous AND flawed" (in bed)
Enjoy!
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