A "Touching" Moment

As I grow in my own personal relationship with myself, my own sexuality, and in a new loving relationship, I am always, always, always so joyful to learn that each new relationship will teach me a life-lesson or two and it's icing on the cake when a new partner teaches me a new trick or two between the sheets! 

Over the course of the last four and half years, I have been face to face with many challenges while dating in my 30's from "the guy who humped my leg" (see my blog post 9/1/10 - 'needs') to tactfully learning how to exit a relationship gracefully, to defending my vibrant sexual woman-hood to a man who said, "all you ever want to do is have sex". *sigh* (he for sure bats for my team, so how could my healthy desire for regular encounters in the bedroom, actually turn him off?!) Maybe we can address this style of miscommunication in another post.

My library of colorful stories goes on and on and I hope you continue to join me on this blog journey so you can learn from my mistakes, share more laughs, and gain knowledge from my incredible readers who share heart-felt comments and advice of their own. More importantly I hope you learn that it's "ok" to push the envelope in your own intimate relationships!

One man taught me that it really is ok to be a lady on the street and a freak in the bed.

One man "unknowingly" taught me that I will not compromise my own belief system just to feel accepted by him.

One man taught me to enjoy "cake" in the rain!

My most recent and greatest lesson in intimacy taught me that I am desirable without having to have actual intercourse. I am no stranger to self-pleasuring, nor am I inexperienced in different forms of intimacy. My experience was one of assurance. I felt a peaceful comfort in the arms of my partner. Enjoying the slow, calming closeness of my partner's breath and touch, which ultimately lead to me to a calming unfamiliar, yet satisfying climax.  Penetration does not have to occur for an intensely intimate moment to transpire.


Whether or not this moment is because there is trust, and care, or because I was open to a new way of looking at intimacy, I know that I am still open to trying new things, and am so thankful for this teachable moment, between the sheets.


Take your time baking some cake tonight, and over the weekend. Reassure your partner that if you are going to try some "new moves" in bed, that you are wanting to connect with them in a different way, because you care about them and that there are no expectations about an end result.


Touch your partner in new ways, and let me know what kinds of new, fabulous "icing" you discover!


Hug long. Love slowly. Rest Well.