Making "Cake" Together

I have had the opportunity to enjoy adult cake-baking as a married woman, and more recently, as a single woman. There are so many facets to cake-baking, when exploring in a new relationship, and also when attempting to keep the fires of desire burning in a mature relationship.


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I'm sure I'm preaching to some of the choir here, but hang with me for a minute, it will be worth your time. No matter where you are currently, in your relationship status, I have learned that "connecting" with my partner dosn't have to be as difficult as some of the stories I have heard from friends. 


I also feel a sense of frustration when I overhear some females complaining that their husbands want to have sex with them "all the time". If I had the luxury of a steady piece of ass in my house every night and he wanted to ravish me, you bet your bottom dollar I'd be hittin it every night. Don't take your partner for granted. Period. Let's take a look at all the "in-your-face-sex-messages" we get to see on a daily basis. It's now standard to see a make-out session when trying to sell me a pack of gum. All alcohol is sexy, even "light" so we can stay sexy while drinking it, or lose weight while tossing back a few before we head home after bar time, to "bake some cake".


Let's do a reality check, here friends. Most of us are more than likely curled up on the couch in our yoga pants or boxers, sipping one adult beverage at the end of the day, just to unwind. Don't buy into any societal pressures about what your cake-baking skills or lifestyle should look like!


Get back in touch with your partner, by simply spending time together. A handy schedule I used successfully in my marriage was this:
First Friday of month: family night
Second Friday of month: my night to do what i want
Third Friday of month: spouse did what he wanted
Last Friday of month: date weekend!


For all of you skeptics, who rolled your eyes, and moaned to yourself, "I have to schedule sex?"And then you proclaimed, "But that takes all the spontenaity out of it"I would guess you aren't currently getting enough cake currently so change your attitude, and ask your partner on a date, and surprise them with an entire weekend in, or away, but let them know it will just be the two of you, and let them know what to pack or wear but don't tell them anything until the night of. This is where the mystery and the spontaneity kicks in. I had the pleasure of meeting my partner at a random hotel bar where he found me engaged in conversation with a strange man, but then I was swept off my feet that evening by my partner! That is one example of many, and if any of my readers are willing to share some fun dating experiences, please do!


The last caveat to the monthly relationship maintenenace is that you each take turns. September is his turn to plan, October is her turn to plan, etc. Share the new concepts and ideas and watch the re-connecting begin! (my blog does not take on gender-specific relationships, the example could have easily been: her/her or his/his)


Turn to your partner again tonight, grab him/her squeeze them tight and proclaim "I ______you!" Then, open up a conversation about dating and relationship maintenance, and see if the simple act of discussing alone time fuels some new recipes in the bedroom!


"I want you!"(i love that one. hearing it and saying it) 


Goodnight, fellow "bakers".